Well its taken a long time but i seem to have this working thanks to finding this post All-in-One Event Calendar.
Which got me to this bit of code in a template: <?php $args = array(‘events_per_page’ => 4,); the_widget(‘Ai1ec_Agenda_Widget’, $args); ?>
Its not great though. What happens if you have a day with 8 events? it only shows 4 of them?
It would be better to have something that shows the next 4 days that have events in them…
Still, its a start.